"The glorious years we've had together
Transformed me to a better person.
I always thought I am imperfect
Until I saw myself through your eyes."
was driving down homewards, late that night, when I accidentally hit on radio
channel FM 104.8. On it was going on a talk show being hosted by eloquent Karan
Johar, Love Guru or Relationship Coach as we may call him. He was outright
there with all his heart listening patiently to the usual rants of couples,
lovers, friends, colleagues having their tough time in their respective
relationships. I was all focused driving, having lent my ears to ongoing
sensible talk over the radio. This tête-à-tête kept me engrossed for one good
hour, and this one hour left me profoundly thinking for days.
are never easy for humans, yet we all deal with it in our own different ways,
according to our own mindset and thresholds. It is well accepted that man is a
social animal. Humans are like foliage plants that thrive in a window box. We
dwell in small clans, friend circle, and society as a whole. By nature, humans
have the urge to be loved, to be accepted and to be understood. And then there
are days when we’re stranded in vastness, feeling alone in a crowd, and
sometimes even left out by our own family. I contemplated my own journey and
could relate to relationship issues. They aren’t as big as they may seem, and
all we need is to address them before it burns the bridges between us.
nothing that cannot work, unless it is dead. Bonding is pivotal in every
relation. Relationships need to be nurtured for they are essence of life and
they bring meaning to us. We often try to fix what’s broken. However, I feel we
should focus more on renewal adding positive vibes can make whole lot of
difference. Giving ten minutes of each day to the words of appreciation can
save us uncountable moments of bliss. Learn to acknowledge each other’s efforts
of building a stronger bond.
hear a lot of people who don’t want to change and want to be accepted the way
they are; this has been one of the most destructive mindset in all these years
of evolution. What if an ape was aware of not changing and to be accepted the
way it was?
allow the feelings to fade away. Keep the relationship alive; try different
ways to keep everyone in the family, among friends, pepped up. It is just not
about the couple, but the entire clan. When two people get married, it is just not
a relationship between them two but their entire kinship gets involved giving
birth to new relations which can be as vast as an entire clan or society. When
we live at a place that is composed of multiple other individuals than us, we
need to make sure about creating an overall environment and how our action
affects everyone else in a positive way. Promote collective individualism.
is inevitable and nobody is alike, even the twins that are born to be alike are
different in traits. When two people are keen to live together, they’ll have to
make place for one another. They have to clear the clutter, give up on old
nagging habits. To pair up, we have to shape and mould; this is the best you
can do to avoid awkward moments of embarrassment. Like in fantasies, to be a
perfect fit is way more different than real life. Change is like a fresh
breeze, breathe on it.